The way we talk – and the words we use- say a lot about what we think and value. When we use positive adoption language, we day that adoption is a way to build a family just as birth is. Both are important, but one is not more important than the other.
Choose the following, positive adoption language, instead of negative adoption talk that helps perpetuate the myth that adoption is second best. By using positive adoption language, you will reflect the true nature of adoption, free on innuendo.
Adopted Child, Own Child
Adoptable Child, Available Child
Track Down Parents
An Unwanted Child
Child Taken Away
Words not only convey facts, they also evoke feelings. When a TV movie talks about a “custody battle” between “real parents” and “other parents”, society gets the wrong impression that only the birth parents are real parents and the adoptive parents aren’t real parents. Members of society may also wrongly conclude that all adoptions are “battles.”
Positive adoption language can stop the spread of misconceptions such as these. By using adoption language, we educate others about adoption. We choose emotionally “correct” words over emotionally-laden words. We speak and write in positive adoption language with the hopes of impacting others so that this language will someday become the norm.
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