Anger

A	Children ACT out their feelings. Help your children discover appropriate ways to show you their feelings. Accept their feelings and help children to accept their own feelings
N	Anger is a NORMAL human feeling. It can have many causes such as: Frustration Being made fun of Needing attention Being hungry, tired, sick, thirsty or hot Feeling helpless Having to wait Having difficulty making people understand you Being punished
G	GOOD listening can help children calm down. Watch your own actions and words. Model the behavior you wish your children to have. “Actions speak louder than words”
E	EVENTUALLY children will be able to “use their words” and control their actions. This takes many years of practice and patience from adults.
R	RELEASE: Anger needs a place to go. It has energy in both children and adults. Try the following ideas as a way to let go of angry feelings so no one gets hurt.

 

Feeling Angry as an Adult

• Count to 10 taking a deep breath after each number
• Blow into a paper bag and pop it
• Pound on a mattress
• Rip up junk mail
• Call a friend
• Take a shower
• Walk away

Feeling Anger as a Child

• Throw pillows
• Go in the bathroom, close the door and yell
• Do an angry dance
• Color, paint or draw an angry picture
• Jump up and down
• Go to quiet place to calm down
• Tell an adult why you're mad

Children's Books

• The Grouchy Ladybug
  by Eric Carle
• Sometimes I Feel Like a Mouse
  by Jeanne Modesitt
• No David
  by David Shannon
• Tough Boris
  by Mem Fox
• My Many Colored Days
  by Dr. Seuss
• D.W. Go to your Room
  by Marc Brown

Adult Books

• Touchpoints
  by T.B.  Brazelton
• When Kids are Mad, not Bad
  by Paul Henry
• How to Talk So Kids will Listen
  by Faber and Mazlish
• The Discipline Book
  by DR. William Sears

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