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What is rehoming?

Rehoming is a term that you may have heard in the news. But what exactly is it? It’s not the same as adoption dissolution or adoption disruption.

Adoption dissolution

The legal termination of parental rights AFTER adoption finalization. Yes, there are cases in which adoptive parents have terminated their legal rights to adoptees. While we believe that the best scenario is for families is to stay together, every case is unique as is every family, and these parents have sought legal assistance to ensure the safety and best fit for their child.

Adoption disruption

The legal termination of placement BEFORE an adoption finalization. Every adoptee and adoptive family typically have six months prior to finalization. Disruption is when the adoption (and the child) are moved from their adoptive placement before the court finalization.

Rehoming

The underground, unregulated practice of transferring children from home to home without any oversight, vetting (such as background checks or home studies), or regulation. This is happening more and more within the adoption community, but it is also happening within the general population through pseudo/fictive kinship care. There are legal, moral, and ethical implications. This is not respite care, in fact, the parents have no intent of return and may be listed under the moniker of “respite care,” which under the legal foster definition is up to 2-4 weeks with the intent to return. If the placement ‘breaks down’, the child can be moved at a whim.

Essentially, these children are moved arbitrarily without any oversight, permanency, or consistent supports. Most of the time these children do not know the caregivers prior; the new caregivers are strangers or vague acquaintances. This is a violation of ICPC (Interstate Compact Placement Contracts) and can be considered trafficking by some, if there is a proof of exploitation or monetary exchange. There are significant concerns regarding their safety and well-being for the children moved and the children in the homes of those rehomed. This can open up an already vulnerable child to abuse, neglect, or exploitation. Many of the children rehomed are international adoptees and/or former foster children, particularly children of color.

Surprisingly, this practice is not considered illegal in Texas. The U.S. State Department has taken this seriously, and is working alongside others throughout the U.S. to push federal guidelines and legislation forward on this issue.

ChristianWorks is dedicated to helping prevent this practice as well as serve the children and families already impacted. ChristianWorks does not support, condone, or desire to be complicit in rehoming of any kind. We will walk with families who are brave enough to come to us for help regarding an adoptive placement in jeopardy or even considering disruption or dissolution, so we can sit down and give informed consent to prevent rehoming.


ChristianWorks provides post-adoption counseling services on an affordable sliding fee scale. For more information, visit our CounselingWorks web page or contact us to talk with a post-adoption specialist.

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8 Ideas for Handling Adoption Questions

Many times when a couple has made a plan to adopt they are often questioned by outsiders. Below are some ideas for handling these questions.

1. As a family make the decision before hand what information you want to share, and with whom you wish to share it with.

2. Remember that they are the ones asking the question. Don’t allow them to put you on the defensive. They are the ones whose prying behavior should be questioned, not your reluctance to answer.

3. The way you respond to questions will often times relay to them your attitude about the  adoption process. If you respond in a defensive manner often times it will reinforce the questioner’s negative perception of adoption.

4. Always remember to use positive adoption language.

5. Keep in mind that you may be the only education that some will receive on adoption. With that in mind, make sure that you are educated on all aspects of adoption.

6. Assure your child(ren) that not all questions from adults must be answered. If a question is inappropriate or rude it should be ignored.

7. Realize that questions about adoption are endless, and that through time you will continue to be better equipped to answer them.

8. Rehearse responses to questions prior to them being asked, so that when the occasion arises you will be ready.

There are no “correct” answers. However, a comfortable attitude toward adoption and a good grasp of Positive Adoption Language will provide good answers.

Check out our article on Positive Adoption Language.


AdoptionWorks Post Adoption is a free support group program for adoptees ages five to seventeen. At AdoptionWorks we provide a safe and loving environment where children and teens can connect with others who are adopted. Here adoptees can find the freedom and safety to explore their adoption experience openly. The curriculum for the post adoption support groups has been developed by licensed mental health professionals who are also adopted. These groups are designed by adoptees, as well as adoption professionals, for adoptees and their parents.

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Choose Positive Adoption Language

The way we talk – and the words we use- say a lot about what we think and value. When we use positive adoption language, we day that adoption is a way to build a family just as birth is.  Both are important, but one is not more important than the other.

Choose the following, positive adoption language, instead of negative adoption talk that helps perpetuate the myth that adoption is second best. By using positive adoption language, you will reflect the true nature of adoption, free on innuendo.

Positive Language

Birth parent
Biological Parent
Birth Child
My Child
Born to Unmarried Parents
Terminate Parental Rights
Make an Adoption Plan
To Parent
Waiting Child
Biological Father
Making Contact With
Parent
International Adoption
Adoption Triad
Permission to Sign a Release
Search
Child Placed for Adoption
Court Termination
Child with Special Needs
Child from Abroad
Was Adopted

Negative Language

Real Parent
Natural Parent
Own Child
Adopted Child, Own Child
Illegitimate
Give Up
Give Away
To Keep
Adoptable Child, Available Child
Begetter
Reunion
Adoptive Parent
Foreign Adoption
Adoption Triangle
Disclosure
Track Down Parents
An Unwanted Child
Child Taken Away
Handicapped Child
Foreign Child
Is Adopted

Words not only convey facts, they also evoke feelings. When a TV movie talks about a “custody battle” between “real parents” and “other parents”, society gets the wrong impression that only the birth parents are real parents and the adoptive parents aren’t real parents. Members of society may also wrongly conclude that all adoptions are “battles.”

Positive adoption language can stop the spread of misconceptions such as these. By using adoption language, we educate others about adoption. We choose emotionally “correct” words over emotionally-laden words. We speak and write in positive adoption language with the hopes of impacting others so that this language will someday become the norm.

Click here to learn more about our adoption and post adoption services at ChristianWorks for Children.

Permission to reprint this page granted by OURS magazine, Adoptive Families of America. Click here to find out more.

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How to Talk to Your Adopted Child about Bullying

Many adopted children are bullied and teased throughout their lives. Bullying of adoptees can center around race, gender, adoption status, development, social skills, and much more. It can be easy to dismiss teasing or bullying as “kids being kids” or to suggest that you, as the parent, can relate to a time that you were bullied or teased. While this is true, bullying of adopted children can be more complex. Many adoptees fear rejection and abandonment, something they have already experienced. Talking to your adopted child about bullying is important to help them cope and speak up when bullying starts.

Adopted children can become targets because of developmental, behavioral, and neurological differences. They may also be teased about their complex history or physical differences from their adopted parents or siblings. Many kids who experience trauma early in life are wired to be impulsive and have a fight or flight response.

Adoptees cannot escape these differences. They need adults in their lives to acknowledge and help them navigate the meaning of these differences. We must stand up for them and teach them to respond appropriately. Dismissing bullying and teasing can feel like another rejection for a child who is struggling to understand what happened to them.

Real questions shared by adoptees

“How much did they [adoptive family] pay for you?”
“No wonder they [birth parents] left you.”
“Is your real mom a crack-head?”
“Where are your real parents?”
“Why is your name __________? You don’t look like a _________.”
“Are you dating that guy?” (pointing to an adoptee’s sibling or parent)
“What does it feel like to be an orphan?”
“Were your true parents poor or something?”
“Go back to ________.”
“Aren’t orphans dirty?”

These statements are painful for any child or parent to hear.

How do you talk to your adopted child about bullying?

  • Ask questions when your child talks about a bad day at school or problems with friends. Try to understand what is happening. Is bullying taking place? What is the source of the teasing?
  • Help your child define what bullying is. Calling it out for what it is can be critical. When we can name an event, we can better process it, and learn what to do the next time.
  • Talk about appropriate reactions to bullying. Walk away. Say “stop.” Don’t fight. Stay calm.
  • Teach them the difference between tattling and reporting. Talk about the importance of reporting bullying to a teacher, counselor, or parent.

This is just the beginning of a broader conversation. Many children experience bullying and teasing daily. Talking about bullying can be uncomfortable, but it is important. Children must feel safe enough to speak up when bullying occurs. That starts with a conversation.

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Transracial Adoptee: Living in a Racially Complex World

Shortly after the Michael Brown case sparked the first protests in Ferguson, Missouri, an adoptive parent sat in my office with tears in her eyes as she shared her concern for her son’s safety. She shared her feelings of helplessness to protect him adequately. Her son was adopted from an African country and she was a white, single adoptive mother. Based on his early history of trauma, his behaviors were erratic and challenging for most adults who attempted to care for him. Yet, underneath these trauma-based responses was a loving, tender and intuitive child who lived through unspeakable tragedy before his adoption. She was already receiving expulsion threats from his school and extensive calls from the principal, yet his white sibling, who is also adopted through foster care was not.

When her son erupted into a temper tantrum at the local library, she recounted that a white man intervened by yelling at her elementary-age son to get off “that woman.” The incident rattled her and she realized that one day he could easily become a Trevon Martin or Michael Brown in his own neighborhood despite being adopted into their family. She believed they lived in a diverse area, but realized that her sense of diversity was not the same experience for her son. Not only did he lack a racial reflection, he lacked a role model as he matures into a black man living in a white world. She admitted that she was uncomfortable discussing race directly with her son because there were so many other issues they were dealing with on a daily basis.

In addition, she shared that discussions about race within her own family, which traced back to the KKK, were non-existent. There were portions of her extended family who did not accept her black son, but would her white son, so she made the decision not to engage certain family functions, leaving her isolated. She shared that it was a painful decision, but one that she had to make when she adopted. Curiously, I inquired if some of his reactions and high anxiety might also be related to racial sensitivity in addition to his current special needs. She shared that she had not considered that before. Despite her deep love for her son, she lacked a roadmap to navigate race and racism — and by proxy so did her sons, but she was willing to learn. The vast majority of transracial adoptions are still between white parents and children of color. Though, this is not the case for all, I will be primarily addressing white parents raising adopted children of color.

We live in a racially complex world — and for too many people of color, it is a racially dangerous world. As a woman of color and transracial adoptee, my bones grow weary when I hear the simplistic phrase, “[We] have come a long way when it comes to the ‘race issue.’” I challenge that argument when people of color, or POCs, are disproportionately incarcerated and ware-housed in prisons for longer sentences versus their white counterpart for similar crimes, it is unjust. When race is continually linked to vigilante justice and police brutality resulting in the deaths of Black brothers and sisters, it hurts. When Boston’s Museum of Modern Art pushes a “Geisha” exhibit so that people can “try on” a displaced idea of Asian, or “yellow face,” it is demeaning. When NAACP’s former branch president, Rachel Dolezal, appropriates a black identity, as well as a transracial adoptee identity moniker, it is viewed as fresh and nuanced, but the irony of the privilege that helped her obtain that position of power is negated, it is discomfiting. When the NFL defiantly defends the Washington Redskins moniker, a racially demoralizing term to Native Americans (and should be for all of us), it is exploitive. When #blacklivesmatter is challenged by #alllivesmatter, it dismisses the focus on racial violence and oppression of black lives as equal stakeholders.

When a person of color is told that they are being too sensitive — questioned why everything is about race — or their stories are deconstructed by others through seemingly innocuous questions such as, “Are you sure it happened that way?” or “Well, not everyone does that,” it leaves a person of color with a sense of inadequacy to find a counter-argument for their own experience. Privilege is not having to actively acknowledge injustice or inequality when one does not have to see. Inaction and silence is not philosophical, it is dangerous. Children of color do not have the luxury to become defensive because they are constantly living in a state of defense. Outside a parent’s proximity, many transracial adoptees anxiously prepare for intrusive questions about their race, first, and then their adoption status within their family second. It is one thing to be the parent who must hear and answer intrusive questions, but it is another to be the vehement focus of those questions.

Reality check: TRAs do not hear the PC terms “c-word” or “n-word” first. They hear the full word in all its offense and derogation. I consider those terms to be “main gate” phrases that sparks a TRA’s awareness of racism. However, it is the more subtle acts that wear transracial adoptees and people of color down. Unlike other children of color, transracial adoptees may live within a family who looks like the very people who let them know verbally or non-verbally they are not the same. Children of color begin to internalize that they are inheritably different than their white counterparts. They observe that their white peers may receive more smiles, eye contact, approval or get called on in class more often. Those experiences make it challenging for a transracial adoptee to actively go to their parents and discuss these experiences because racial microaggressions are insidious and subliminal. Those experiences do not come with a vocabulary unless they learn the words to describe discrimination or mature into adulthood and recognize what happened to them later. Over time, their responses may appear to be behavioral, emotional and attachment issues, but what belies these behaviors may actually be a feeling of isolation and alienation from those who should protect and defend them. The cruel irony is that at the heart of attachment is a child’s ability to seek safety in a time of stress, but what if that parent, or loved one, looks similar to the aggressor?

It is inexcusable for adoptive parents of transracial adoptees to forego discussions about racial relations in the United States with their children. In an effort to shield a transracial adoptee from painful feelings or reminders they are different from their adoptive family by not addressing race, is to instill an unnecessary sense of abandonment as transracial adoptees are forced to navigate their racial status separate from their family. Yet, transracial adoptees know they are different from their families. They just want parents to openly acknowledge that difference, not hide or silence it. When adoptive parents share that their children never discuss race or adoption, it may not necessarily be due to indifference, but fear and discomfort. On a developmental level, transracial adoptees do not have the life experiences, words, or parents of color to help frame those experiences thoroughly and consistently. There is an expectation that a child of color will have the words and awareness to tell them about most racialized events — this can be true for more overt racialized events. However, when they are more covert, it puts a burden on transracial adoptees to both decode and identify a racial experience without vocabulary modeled for them. Without words our children cannot make sense of those experiences which will compromise their over-all ability to accurately perceive and protect themselves. Transracial adoptees must learn to live in racial tension, and know what to do when confronted by racism and discrimination that is most often embedded institutionally within school systems, government, places of worship and others.

Progressive attitudes and open-minded thinking will not eclipse tough discussions involving race — for example, discussing racial justice while clutching a purse or briefcase when a person of color enters an elevator sends mixed messages. White adoptive parents must confront internalized and/or generational racial divides within their own family system, amongst friends, and the community at-large to protect their child. Transracial adoptees are afforded selective privilege for a brief period of time transmitted through their white adoptive parents. However, as they mature this privilege dissipates. A black son, who was once adorable and precocious, is now seen as the aggressor, calculating and menacing as he enters pre-adolescence. An Asian daughter becomes the object of sexual fantasy and lust in the eyes of men, particularly white men, called “Yellow Fever” as she matures. A Latino son is now relegated to “illegal” status and considered threatening to America’s way of life as he reaches young adulthood. A biracial daughter is subtly encouraged to claim “a racial side,” when she hears her adoptive parents talk so lovingly about their Irish-Italian roots without access to her ethnic roots, and quickly recognizes that white identity is more acceptable. Conversely, when a white adoptive father walks out of his home, he does not worry about the police being called on him or being shot for trespassing at his home, but his transracially adopted children may not be treated the same way in their neighborhood. Transracial adoptees cannot opt out of these experiences. They cannot change their visage, though they may feel white internally and respond as their white counterparts, but not recognize that the broader society will not view them the same way — or treat them as such. When a teen of color is pulled over by police or followed by a vigilante civilian, they must know what to do to stay safe — and alive.

In addition, many transracial adoptees have complex trauma history and neurobiological impacts that have impacted social cueing prior to adoption that makes recognizing racial attacks more convoluted, but no less significant or impactful for that child. Professionals and researchers have deconstructed the impacts of complex neurodevelopmental trauma, but the topic of race and the longitudinal impacts of racism has yet to be fully integrated. Transracial adoptees and persons of color who experience daily racial microaggressions will have a heightened level of anxiety and stress when they leave the safety of their home to remain proactive within society. Due to past trauma, trauma responses may be triggered quicker. When transracial adoptees react, it may appear aggressive, disobedient, willful or “attachment-related,” when in fact it may have been linked to racialized situations. However, there may be less tolerance by adults and peers when a child of color responds. There is a disproportionate number of children of color, particularly black and Latinos, who are threatened with expulsion, detention and punitive discipline than their white peers. They will have the privilege of white parents to advocate for them in ways that their peers of color do not; however, their parents’ advocacy is only as effective as their parents’ awareness and proximity. Their peers of color may have parents and extended family who can actively model racial awareness, pride and safety. That is why it is critical for adoptive parents to be educated and attuned to their child’s racial experiences. To merely recognize racism and racial microaggressions within society is not enough, parents must actively respond. It is a matter of safety and protection for transracial adoptees.

Adoption-sensitive dialogues surrounding birth family, placement, grief and complex trauma cannot replace race-related awareness, but must be integrated. White parents can align with their child’s needs and become their strongest and fiercest advocate. They need their parents to actively champion change. This is a cornerstone in identity formation for a transracial adoptee. It is never too late to start this process — so long as you start.


Addressing the Complexities of Race with Transracial Adoptees

The following are recommendations from transracial adoptees and persons of color when addressing the complexities of race. This list is definitely not exhaustive, but common recommendations to consider as a starting point:

• Recognize your privileged status as a white adoptive parent, in that, you will experience your child’s world through a unique paradigm. When you are with your child, the world will not treat your child the same way. It is not an indictment on whiteness, but an awareness of what persons of color experience within a broader context.

• Become more aware of your personal biases and triggers (we all have them). What makes you uncomfortable? Angry? Fearful? Overwhelmed? What were the silent messages you learned about race when you were growing up? When you become aware of your biases, it frees you to be more present in your child’s experiences and less fearful. Colorblindness does not exist for your child.

• Learn about the history of race in the United States. Educate yourself about the historical racial struggles within your child’s racial group so you can better discuss these issues with your child and others. Find books authored by persons of color. Read about transracial adoption through the lived out experience of transracial adoptees in addition to adoptive parent’s perspectives.

• Actively engage and befriend people of color. Children need a reflection of their race as they grow up. They should not be the only person of color within their family system. As a transracial family, transracial adoptees need to see their parents model engagement and active involvement with other people and communities of color. Parents need to be able to ask questions of persons of color regarding race and racial experiences to advocate for their child — and learn how to keep them safe.

• Recognize that in certain situations, in which your child is one of the few kids of color, that they may be uncomfortable, anxious or more hyper-responsive — particularly, if there is a background of complex neurodevelopmental trauma. Parents can both acknowledge that they are aware they are one of the few children of color — and then ask their child how that makes their heart and/or body feel? Be prepared to listen and act upon their statements.

• Know your surroundings. If parents are bringing their transracial adoptee to an area where symbols of racial hate or openly hostile responses to their child are evident or a known issue in that location, parents need to be proactive and aware. Asking will they be safe? Will they be safe as a family? Do other persons of color frequent these areas or would they avoid them? This still exists throughout the United States . . . there is a state law allowing law enforcement to pull over suspected illegal immigrants in Arizona.

• Consider your community. Living in diversity is not the same as living within diversity. Living amongst persons of color is not the same as living within relationship — as friends, mentors and teachers. Examine your friends (not just acquaintances), doctors, therapists, teachers and administrators, place of worship, political leaders, etc. If your child is one of the few of color, then consider moving to a more diverse area that will allow you to actively plug into the community, not just live there. If your child appears like the people your place of worship “helps” or does missionary work, what message is that constantly sending to your child? No child or adult wants to feel like a project. There may be tough questions regarding moving to a more diverse ethnic and socioeconomic area.

• Consider your immediate and extended family: Would you feel comfortable allowing your child unsupervised visits or time with a specific family member due to racial intolerance or bigoted comments? Would they be protective and advocate for your child when they are with them? Toleration of a family member’s racial comments about a minority group should not be dismissed as “that generation.” Your child needs to see parents actively confronting statements. When parents are silent — they are sending a message that the statement, “is OK in our family.”

• Discuss newsworthy events by sharing what you felt was discriminatory, biased or unjust openly. Sharing your feelings and opinions about a particular situation helps frame a discussion with your kids — and acknowledges that you see racial microaggressions, too. This begins to give them words for experiences. Ask them their thoughts. What would they do? Address what they need to do should they get pulled over, followed in a store, accused of an action they did not do, etc.

• Repair missed opportunities to advocate for your child. Once you become more aware, you can more readily pick up on those events. If possible, intervene when you notice a racialized experience, but if the situation is not safe for you and your child — leave the situation immediately. Discuss with your child soon after. Let your child know you saw what happened. Share with them how unjust, unfair, frightening or sad it was that it happened to them. Ask them what they would like you to do. This allows both of you opportunity to learn together — and lets your child know that they are not alone.

• Remember you are learning along the way. Continue to lean into discomfort. Racism and discrimination of any kind, is not comfortable and should not be. These discussions are similar to building muscles — the more you do, the more comfortable and fluid it becomes.

This article was written by Post-Adoption Clinical Director Melanie Chung-Sherman and was originally published in the October 2015 issue of AdoptionToday. For more articles like this, visit adoptinfo.net.

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Contrary to POPculture belief, Adoption has Evolved.

For those of you who love watching Downton Abbey these days, you will immediately understand why Edith’s story seems to hit home with us at AdoptionWorks.

If you have not had a chance to catch up on this season’s drama, Edith has found herself pregnant by a man who leaves for Germany to procure a divorce from his wife. Yeah. Try and wrap your head around a time when “no-fault divorce” did not exist. Harboring this secret and facing pressure from her aunt who she confided in, Edith feels her only choice is to place the child with an adoptive couple. To ensure that no one finds out about the child, her aunt whisks her away to a foreign country for a few months so that Edith could give birth and find her baby a home. Now all Edith has to do is go back to Downton Abbey and pretend that nothing has happened.

 Unfortunately, that is the way many birth mothers have been treated historically. Fortunately, the adoption world has evolved! Open adoption, when done the right way, can be a very healthy and loving option. Open adoption is a relationship where adoptive and birth parents put their desires and comfort on the back burner and work together to maintain a positive and healthy relationship for the sake of the child. It is not co-parenting; it is a way for birth parents and adoptees to stay connected. Open adoption is backed by research with entire books being written about it.

A great article, that includes extensive research, can be found here (if you cannot bring yourself to read the whole thing, at least read the executive summary!)

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Love Makes A Family

By: Katti Henderson

Love Makes a Family. This has been our mantra throughout the last few years as my husband, Adam, and I traveled the road on our adoption journey.  Although often tumultuous, the journey to becoming a family in this way is full of beauty; beauty from ashes. (Isaiah 61:3)

The struggle of a couple longing for children year after year, collides with the difficult decision a young mother must make to provide the life she desires for her child. This relationship creates a kindred connection that personifies bittersweet.

Adam is my high school sweet heart, and a two-time childhood leukemia survivor. Due to side effects from the chemotherapy and radiation from treatment, we always knew that our route to becoming a family would be non-traditional.

We connected with AdoptionWorks through a dear friend and began the process of becoming a family of three. We were educated on how to best parent an adopted child, how to help our child deal with grief and loss, and many other adoption related topics that would prepare us when the time came.

We are proud and overwhelmingly blessed to say that the time has come. As I held my son, Isaac, in my arms this morning I gazed at his perfect face and praised the Lord for beauty from ashes.

We’ve felt a lot of things on this journey, but thanks to AdoptionWorks, alone was never one of them.

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AdoptionWorks

We hope you got to tune in this past weekend on CounselingWorksNow, new radio program through ChristianWorks for Children, and 100.7 KWRD. Guest speakers, Amy Monroe of IBC’s Tapestry Adoption and Foster Care Ministries, Melanie Chung-Sherman, LCSW, PLLC, CounselingWorks’ Adoption Triad Specialist, and Heather Ellis, LMSW, LCPAA, Director of AdoptionWorks, discussed the Common Questions and Challenges in Adoption. It’s amazing to know that the Dallas/Ft. Worth Metroplex is home to one of the largest populations of adoptive families in the United States, showing how many of us have been touched by adoption in one way or another.

Since the beginning of this year, CounselingWorks has served several adoptive families, including adult adoptees, adoptive parents, adopted children, and birth parents through the Adoption Triad Counseling program. CounselingWorks is pleased to offer quality counseling services at an affordable cost to families and individuals, and especially now to members of the adoption community. Be sure to contact us if you have any questions about our Adoption Triad Counseling program.

In addition to Adoption Counseling, Tapestry Adoption and Foster Care Ministries through Irving Bible Church offers a variety of support programs to members of the adoption and foster care community. Be sure to check them out at http://tapestryministry.org/

You can never have too much support throughout the lifetime of your adoption journey. Support in the forms of counseling, church support, and friendships with other members of the adoption community are a vital help in navigating through the unique challenges that come with every adoption story. Hope to hear from you soon!

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Improved Knowledge and Skillsets Added to Post Adoption Counseling Program

By 4:30 PM on Friday, May 18, 2012. Three ChristianWorks for Children staff were tired, yet excited. Last Friday marked the end of a week-long training held through TCU’s Child Development Institute known as Trust-Based Relationship Intervention (TBRI). Janet Johnston, Heather Ellis, and Kristina Stephens were awarded with $3, 500 scholarships, apiece through Focus On The Family to participate in TBRI at the hands of Karyn Purvis, PhD, and David Cross, PhD, to obtain knowledge and skills to help children who have survived the trauma of abuse, neglect, and/or institutionalization to heal through having connections with their adoptive and/or foster families.

Our staff will incorporate much of the TBRI tools into the Post Adoption Counseling services offered through CounselingWorks to help empower adoptive and foster families to make a genuine connection with children who come from difficult places. One of the coolest parts about TBRI is the infusion of scripture and spiritual compassion, which is the cornerstone of Trust-Based parenting that helps the parent to see their child’s preciousness so true healing can take place.

If you are an adoptive parent, or know of an adoptive family who could benefit from Post Adoption Counseling, or even Pre-Adoption Counseling, don’t hesitate to contact 972-960-9981, to schedule an appointment with either: Melanie Chung-Sherman, LCSW, PLLC, Kristina Stephens, MALPC, Janet Johnston, LMSW-IPR, or Heather Ellis, LMSW. Your relationship with your child is vital to your child’s ability to have healthy relationships as he or she journey’s into adulthood. Why not give us a call today?

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Thank God for a Mother’s Love

This week, as we make plans to honor and celebrate our mothers, let’s remember to thank God for blessing us with our mother’s love. At ChristianWorks for Children we have the privilege of witnessing a mother’s love through those who give their child life and those who teach them how to live. We thank God for all the mothers we have had the opportunity to work with through AdoptionWorks.

 

Thank God for Mother’s Love

There is no love, like a mother’s love,
no stronger bond on earth…
like the precious bond that comes from God,
to a mother, when she gives birth.

A mother’s love is forever strong,
never changing for all time…
and when her children need her most,
a mother’s love will shine.

God bless these special mothers,
God bless them every one…
for all the tears and heartache,
and for the special work they’ve done.

When her days on earth are over,
a mother’s love lives on…
through many generations,
with God’s blessings on each one.

Be thankful for our mothers,
for they love with a higher love…
from the power God has given,
and the strength from up above.

– Anonymous